Attracting An Opinionated Woman
By James Howlett
No matter what kind of guy you are, strong with wild ideas, or moderate with conventional ones, you're going to be interacting with women, and you are going to get into discussions with some opinionated women. Heated discussions. Arguments even.
Any man could, at any time, find himself in any kind of conversational battle. Maybe your pants were off when they really should have been on. Perhaps you zigged when you should have zagged, or despite your best intentions, you just spoke out of turn, or were led into the land-mine of risky topics.
The trick to coming out ahead in these kinds of situations is to always be prepared. You wouldn't go out for a night on the town without some cash and a pressed shirt, would you? So why would you head into a conversational battle without your best artillery?
Nobody wants to be that guy in the corner taking a browbeating from an opinionated gal, especially when, whether that beaten man was wrong or right, he could have come out unscathed.
Logic is frequently abandoned when arguing with an opinionated woman for one reason: They will not admit they are wrong. Ever! Not going to happen -- so put it out of your head. No matter how compelling you may be, or how wrong she might be, fair is not the name of the game. The trick is this... proving to yourself that you're right, while making her believe she's right as well.
Here are a number of tricks to reach an opinionated woman and come out of any conversation with one with your dignity intact.
1) Don't Raise Your Voice.
Regardless of the nature of the discussion, watch your voice. Always speak softly - no matter how loud or shrill she may get. As the composed one, her anger will only need run its course. Settle in for a long one, but remember; if she joins you on a conversational level, you've won.
2) Be The First Man To Listen To Her.
Men have a reputation for being poor listeners. Be the exception. She wants to talk, but when it comes time for you to cough up a defense, reiterate her points back to her to prove you're listening to -- and understand -- what she's saying. If you spend your cross-examination explaining herself to her by recapping her words, you may never actually have to ever have an original thought. And she'll think you're the keenest listener on the block.
3) Stay On The Subject At Hand.
Whether the discussion is about music, dinner reservations, Depp flicks, or the State of the Union, pick your case and fight strong. Discussions are more satisfying and complete when you stick to the point and not allow side issues and non-issues sway it in a completely different direction. And if the mood is confrontational, bring up nothing but that which you have been called out on.
4) By Admitting You're Wrong, You Can Still Win.
Sometimes winning an argument is more about the aftermath than the battle. She can never, ever win a fight if you admit you are wrong first. Check your pride at the door. There will be tiffs in which you won't care if you're the victor. In these instances, no matter how much she wants to spar, lay down dead. Sometimes a nice glass jaw in the ring will score you big sensitivity points with the judges. The scorecards will come in, and the winner, by unanimous decision, will be you.
5) Play The Emotional Card.
There are times when women just want to fight because they're feeling emotional. What we forget is that we men also want to fight because we are emotional. It is about the release; and what we are so ingrained to avoid, which has the same consummate effect, is letting the emotions flow. Do not be afraid to act hurt by the things she says. To a woman, an aggressive man who shows emotion in the heat of an argument is the king of men. And you'll always win.
Last Words Of Advice. Take all conversations with the ladies with massive grains of salt and remember; you can always win by letting her believe what she needs to believe. That should be clear about four seconds in. Where we often stumble is when we need to prove to ourselves that we can win no matter the contest. Don't forget that it is in our nature to protect what we believe so sometimes it is okay to be want to be right and be willing to back that up. After all, if we spent all our time getting along and never disagreeing, there would be no such thing as make-up sex!
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