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Online Dating Personals Effective Female Profile Writing

by Tara Maclay

How long do you spend getting ready for a date? At a guess I would say that you can probably spend 1 hour or upwards preening and titilating!

Now let me ask you how long you would spend (or have spent) writing a profile for an online dating site? Less than 5 minutes, possibly 10 minutes maximum?

When you consider that you literally have minutes to impress someone and stand out from the rest in the online dating scene, don't you agree that more time and effort should be put into writing an online profile? If you are an online dater, I'm sure you will agree with me that when you are searching for a partner online you will first of all look at the profiles with photos and, secondly, you will look at the profiles where people have taken the time to write something about themselves. So if you have no photo and/or an incomplete and uninformative profile, don't be surprised if your inbox isn't full to the brim with messages!

I'm going to share a few tips with you to get you started writing an eye-catching profile. In order to get the best representation of you, I highly recommend getting organized and making lists as a first step.

Initial Planning and First Draft

1) What is it that makes you happy? What makes you laugh? What ignites the glow in you? Most people like walks on the beach. So, let's take it to the next level. What about walking on the beach do you like? Is it the sound of the waves? ...Sand between your toes? ...Being away from the city? ...The opportunity that an infinite body of water represents? Does the distance from the city allow you to clear your head? You get my point! Then most people like movies. Do you prefer the big screen or enjoying the DVD in the comfort of your own home? Do you prefer comedy? Drama? Foreign films? The more you list, the information you will have to move forward to create a winning profile.

2) Think about the compliments your friends have told you multiple times in your life. Think about the character traits you adore in your friends. Again, make lists! Once you have lists upon lists, go through and pick out the descriptive elements that really define you.

3) Now, the doozy ...Think about your past relationships. What about your ex-partners initially attracted you, what kept you in the relationship, and what eventually was the real reason for the end. Once you have it all down on paper, you can see, what really matters.
This exercise is extremely therapeutic. It also helps you to organize your priorities, and heal some of the wounds. This "work' allows you the space to come across as centered and actually feel clearer about your intentions to manifest what you truly desire.

4) Now that you have something to work with grab a friend; the kind of friend who is always saying to you "I can't understand why you're still single, you're such a catch". Ask your friend what your star qualities are and he or she will come up with a million and one positive things about you which you would have never thought of or dared to say about yourself.

5) Now get that friend to help you pick out or take the best photo of yourself. The most effective way to get noticed online, is to include a photo. Choose a clear photo that shows you off in your best light and preferably smiling - it makes much better viewing! If your smiling picture is part of a group shot, make sure you identify which one is you. Never use a web-cam! these devices are built by geeks and they make your nose look about three feet long.

6) Choose a fun username, one that captures who you are and is not tacky. The username is important as it is the name which you will be known as by members on the dating site. I would advise you to use a name other than your real name to remain anonymous. Try and choose a name that is fun and reflects your personality, i.e. ActionFlicchick or HipHopDancER. Do not use a name that is sexually provocative or offensive as you will likely attract the type of person who will see you in ONLY that light.

5) Write a chapter, not a book. By this I mean, don't tell your whole life story in your profile. I encourage you to provide as much information as possible about yourself but use short bursts of information, sectioned by paragraphs, rather than writing a long essay so whoever is reading it is intrigued to find out more about you. Be selective in using all the information you have gathered in the list-making phase. The idea now is to use the lists to come up with a concise complete picture of you that will attract the type of man you want. By the way, make sure the most important stuff is in the first couple of paragraphs. Most men do not read profiles beyond a couple of paragraphs. You have to sell them that you are interesting enough to read more about. Think of it like writing an executive summary at the beginning with the detailed stuff later.

6) Once you have it all written out, read it out loud. Does it paint a picture of your truest self and desires? If not, then take a break and come back to it tomorrow. Once it's a good representation of you and your desires, share it with a friend or two. Get their feedback. Don't take what they say personally. Simply, hear them out. You have every right to not follow any of their suggestions. Simply, listen.


Up to this point in this article I have discussed what you could do to improve your profile and make it more compelling, but now I want to shift the focus to the most common mistakes that women make when writing a dating profile. Remember, what makes a dating profile great is not only what you write but also what you don't write. It's important that you avoid the following mistakes when writing your profile:

Revising - Common Mistakes To Avoid

1) Do not open with a cliche or a generic statement that every other woman on the site has used!
A guy who has been around the block of internet dating will be very skeptical of yet another profile that starts with: "I am intelligent, independent, compassionate, and honest woman." "I am successful, professional, and looking for a long term relationship." All these statements are great, but they do not achieve the main purpose the dating profile - they don't make you stand out from the rest. Avoid doing this. In fact, don't ever start your profile with "I am." Who said that you have to describe yourself in your dating profile. Instead, say something interesting, express an opinion about the world or some issue in a funny, and witty manner.

2) Do not explain in your profile that your kids are your world and they are your very first priority. It's great that you have kids and that you are determined to take care of them. You should definitely mention that you have kids in your profile, but your writing should not center around your kids. Remember, you are trying to meet guys to date on any given dating site and not tell the world the story of your children. There is no need to say more about your children than the fact that you have them.

3) Do not make any statement such as "If are you not this and not that than I am not interested... and you should skip this profile." - "ultimatums" in your dating profile make you sound like a bitter, jaded woman, and I am sure that you don't want to come across as such. Instead of saying what you are not looking for, tell the guys what you are looking for.

4) Finally, do not include any personal information in your profile, e.g. your e-mail address, home address, work address or telephone number. A reputable dating site will remove any personal information before it appears live on site; this is to ensure that they provide you with a safe online dating environment.

Last Step -- Testing

Once you've completed your profile, read through it or ask a trusted friend to read through it and ask, would you reply to this person? If yes, it's all systems go. If no, look at the areas where it can be improved until you've created that winning profile. Just remember that your online profile is an exercise in marketing yourself. Advertisers revise their ads all the time if they are not working out. If you are not getting action, it is more likely something in your profile more than you as a person. Keep revising.

It may take longer than 5 or 10 minutes but the results that will show in your inbox will be worth it!

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