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Balding Men Dating Challenges

By Roger Ross
I am tired of hearing women saying that he is "bald" as if he was ill or stricken. Some of my best friends are bald by choice. Being bald is like growing older, or getting wrinkles. It's natural. If a woman is obsessed with dating men with full heads of hair then she could be classed as extremely shallow indeed or have an unbalanced sense of youth. Certainly she may be completely mistaken because her current hairy beau could end up being bald anyways. If a man said that he wouldn't date half the women population because their breasts were too small (or big) he would be listed a chauvinist and sexist fool. Yet daily I hear women express their sentiment that "my man MUST have a full head of thick shiny locks". It is as if a sign of dating success is to date the man with the most hair. Sigh.

Interestingly a man with a shaved head doesn't count for some reason. He has the ability to grow hair but he has chosen to have a shaved head due to fashion. Maybe he is a member of the armed forces and therefore expected of him. Maybe he is P. Diddy. Either way, many women appear not to want to date men who don't have a definitely low hair line. I personally never understood why men who purposely shave their heads get the hot women and why men who lose their hair are considered unworthy of dating...of course on that note:

Two different female friends told me this

Oh no, a bald man won't do at all. He has no hair. I want a man with a full head of hair like my daddy had"

I adore men with shaved heads, bald men are so masculine and sexy. They remind me of Bruce Willis."

Hmmm interesting so is it based on attraction and personal taste or bias?

Dating is initially based on physical attraction and subconsciously we are seeking a healthy mate to procreate with. A lack of hair is tied in with age, maturity but for some reason half of women view a lack of hair as unhealthy and off-putting. I know a great many women who will not date balding men at all.

Strangely though, the cult of hair is mainly heavily obsessive in the US and this is partly due to genes. With the heavy influence of eastern European males through successive US/Canadian generations, one finds a society where balding men aren't quite as prevalent as in other countries. In Scandinavia, the UK and Western Europe for example, hair loss appears to be far more common and is therefore far more accepted.

The first thing we need to spell out here is that having a balding head has nothing to do with poor health. It is generally a process of age. It is the same as a woman's breasts sagging, eye wrinkles or wrinkly necks. Being bald is a gradual process that appears to affect certain men in stages.

I think the reason why women are so affected by the image of balding is because of the media, Hollywood and movies. The leading man has always been portrayed in western cinema as a man with a full head of hair. Hair is also the natural domain of youth.

There are rare exceptions. Sting has been losing his hair for years but is seen as very sexy, Nicholas Cage appears to be losing his hair but this doesn't affect his attraction and Sean Connery has lit the fires of generations of women and is probably the sexiest bald man alive (or so I have been told by many, many women). So maybe hair has nothing to do with it. Maybe it is the whole package, the overall attractiveness of the person concerned. Success and confidence levels certainly assist any man, whatever his hair length and this should be taken into consideration.

My own advice is to take the bull by the horns and accept that not all women will love you as a bald man, but then they may not have gelled all that well with you - and what do they know anyway! If a woman judges you by your hair she is probably not worth knowing in the first place (shallow) and if you are a woman, imagine someone judging you by the size of your ass. Instead guys, remember that around half the female population will love you for your looks and see a shaved head as very masculine, virile or even not important at all in the equation.

Go forward with confidence, looking good, smelling better and that certain panache.

Next time someone checks out your lack of hair on a date you have just met an unsuitable match. If you wish to point out their failings too, please go ahead!

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