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Post Coital Conundrums

by Sherry Stoner

Okay we have all been there, we have had the most incredible orgasm of our lives (it only took the guy 20 minutes to get you there...jeez) now what do you do, kick the guy out of bed, run to the bathroom take a shower, make food, or God forbid actually talk to him.

But sometimes in every girl's life there comes a time that you have to do other things to ensure that you feel comfortable and secure...and unfortunately falling asleep is just not acceptable (although not sure why yet..lol)

So why not try these instead:

Wake Up:
Now we all know that there's a biological reason behind why you feel compelled to take a nap after making love. Upon orgasm, humans release the hormone oxytocin, which normally makes us sleepy.

But behold, there is a way around this: Because we tend to hold our breath when an approaching orgasm starts creeping in, we feel exhausted when it finally kicks down the front door.

So instead of holding your breath, try making a conscious effort to inhale and exhale deeply. This will not only enhance your orgasm, it will also help you stay awake, at least for a little while (and trust me better enjoy that orgasm while you can God know when he will be able to do it again).

Keep Touching Your Partner:
You needn't make a grandiose gesture after the deed all the time, but because some are extremely vulnerable after making love, let them know that you still adore them as much as you did before. Even if you're lying there watching TV or talking about how the cracks in the ceiling look like they're getting bigger, always keep touching them. Place your hand on their thigh and rub it gently or play with their hair. You don't have to be sexual; affection and attention will not go unnoticed by them.

Break Out The Rubber Duckie:
After you've both spent a few minutes lavishing in the bliss that was your orgasm and then cleaned yourselves off, fill the bath with steamy water and bubbles galore. Let them lie in between your legs in the water and enjoy each other's time. Soap them down, rub their body and massage their temples. There's no denying that they will love every minute of this experience.

Make Dinner Or A Snack Together
I don't think there's a person in this world who isn't starving after sex, but rather than turn over on your side for a nap suggest that the two of you make dinner together. You can chop the vegetables while your partner prepares the steaks, or you can create some freaky concoction that you would never normally eat like peanut butter covered popcorn. The point here is to continue to spend time together even after the "climax" has passed. (even if you don't really want to...lol)

Do It Again - My Personal Favorite Idea
If he is up for it, as are you (and when aren't we), start the whole foreplay process over again. Take a few minutes to recuperate and do it all over from scratch. Start kissing their lips, and feeling their body all over. You have to build up their excitement for a repeat performance. And when you've revved them up, you can finally start all over again.

Take A Nap Together
If your partner one of those who has multiple, explosive, hair-pulling orgasms during sex, and is an active participant in the event, then chances are they might be just as exhausted as you are once the deed is done. So say something like, "Hey why don't we take a power nap together, then take a bath, make dinner, and do this all over again?" And don't forget to keep your arms around them to let them know that they are the powerful force that put you into a sleepy stupor.

Of course if this was a booty call, give him your number, show him the door and reclaim your bed and take the nap of the century.

Appreciation Post - Orgasm
Orgasms are great, awesome even, but you have to keep in mind that someone was there with you while you were reaching that point, and whether or not you're ecstatic about their presence post-sex, they're still there (at least so far). So take the time to acknowledge her existence and treat them with appreciation.

A few ideas....and you never know when one might come in handy. Good luck and have some fantastic orgasms...lol

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