9 Dating Rules for Guys
By Roger Ross
Okay so you are a guy who is never successful with women. No matter your reason for reading this, there are some really easy to overlook basics for men to heed when dating a woman.
1. Dress to Show Her That She Means Something To You
Ensure that you are appropriately dressed for the venue of the date. Even if your are dressed for a casual thing, you cannot look wrinkly. That just does not cut it. Holes and rips, and frayed ends make you look poor, and as a consequence, most women will move on. You also need at least one suit that fits properly for those special occasions where you go somewhere nice. Brush your hair, teeth and make sure you shower, shampoo and wear deodorant everyday. Nothing turns a woman off faster then a gross smelling man.
2. Make Sure You Can Articulate a Coherent Career Goal
Women want a man who has some ambition in life so being the worlds best gamer is generally not going to win you much of a catch. It is important to have a job though. So if you are not proud of the one you have, make sure you can articulate what it is that you will be able to land and what you have to do to accomplish that. Women will be asking questions on your prospects even if they pretend it isn't important. It is...especially if you are looking for date number 2.
3. Expand Your Horizons
Nothing is more boring on a date than talking to a one subject expert. There is no breadth to the knowledge base. You have probably run into it when talking to some women, so don't be the same thing to them. Women do not appreciate stupidity, and laziness is no excuse either. Being aware of current affairs and being willing to listen to another person's point of view is an engaging attribute to have. Women love intelligence in men, it is not all about looks, brains count too.
4. Talking About Being Out All Night With Your Buddies Will Not Impress Her!
If you think that stories about toking up and drinking with your buds are impressive stories for your date, then pick up some drunk chick at the bar. She may be just the type of person who will be inclined to listen to such drivel.
5. All Sports All The Time
Sports are great, some talk about them is fine, but do not go into a whole tirade about them. Some women are into sports these days as well, but will be unlikely to carry on the same level of conversation as your best buddies do. Once you start to talk about player trades, you have gone beyond reason.
6. Manners, Chivalry and Courtesy Go A Long Way.
Women like to be respected and treated like a lady. Do not make an ass of yourself by swearing all the time. Being rude to people around you is another trait that is not at all endearing. If you want to impress a woman, then it is the little things that often count. Knowing what silverware to use in a top ranked restaurant, how to hold your silverware or your cup, all exhibit a certain amount of social grace and polish that makes you look good on her arm.Tipping generously for good service, and being gracious when the service is less than admirable are traits that are also looked on favorably. Learn about flowers and which colors of roses mean what. Helping her with her seat, opening up doors and holding them for her, even something as simple as holding her hand as you climb up stairs will not go unnoticed. Listen to what she says but have opinions of your own as well. Flattering comments never work as well as flattering her intelligence by listening to her and debating any areas of disagreement.
7. Listen More, Talk Less.
Ensure that you do not monopolize the conversation. You have to walk a tightrope between keeping the conversation moving, but also keeping it light. And as previously stated, listen, listen, listen. She will bore of you quickly because she wants to talk about herself too. Listen to things she tells you about herself and remember them. Women have a gift of gab, so any time you are with one, you have to pay attention to everything. They are like elephants when it comes to verbal information.
8. It Is Rare That Smokers And Non-Smokers Can Last In A Relationship
Non-Smoking women will date a smoker for a while, but since she does not smoke she will hate kissing an ashtray (Couple that with the fact that you will be leaving her alone while you smoke during a date, she will begin to feel neglected. The relationship is usually doomed before it can get off the ground).
9. Learn To Dance Even If You Have Two Left Feet.
Dancing is very physical. It is a great way to connect to a woman, and almost all women like to do it. Dancing is also romantic and sexy. You can be the world's worst dancer. She won't care. But if you stay seated when she is on that dance floor you might as well just walk up to another guy and introduce her to him. You are in effect doing the same thing. You don't need to be Travolta but you should have an idea of the basics of rhythm. Even if you are white, you can dance well enough to satisfy most women.
Just so you know guys this is not a one shot deal. Just because you get a second date does not mean you do not have to do all of the above and more to get further. She will be impressed but you have to keep impressing her with your skills and show her that you are a real man who knows how to treat her with respect. Try it tomorrow. You may be shocked at what happens, you may actually get a second date.
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